Living life by design, not by accident
Most people write New Year’s resolutions in January however most people give up on their plan as fast as February. For example joining the gym but falling out. Saving 10% from January’s salary and then simply stop. And the list goes on and on. This shows a lack of consistency and focus. However if we are allowing ourselves to “cheat on our goals” won’t we find ourselves at the same place in the next year?
What I do and I am not saying this is the best method but it definitely keeps me on track, is to write a weekly journal. Every Sunday morning I write down all the things that happened during the past week and set out a plan of action for the following week. If this helps, give it a shot!
Is your life in continuous chaos and you don’t understand why? It’s possible that you’re living your life on accident. Avoid allowing luck to rule your life. Put your foot down, make a plan, and choose a direction for your life!
In an era of continuous bombardment from information we are lacking wisdom and with so many daily distractions we are lacking a clear plan for our lives. Indeed plans do not always play out exactly as planned however who do you think has a more chance of living a life close to his dreams? Someone with a plan? or someone without?
Take responsibility for your future by thinking of the following. It helps if you are alone, with some creative music or simply no distractions. Take 10 minutes for YOU:
Examine your current situation. How did you end up where you are? Are you living in the home or apartment you’ve always dreamt of? Why not? How did you end up there? Was it the result of long-term planning? Or was it the only place that you could find on short notice because you were short of cash?
- Consider all aspects of your life. That includes your career, friends, fitness level, finances, intimate relationship, and so on. Did you choose what you have, or did you just grab at the best opportunity that happened to wander by your awareness?
Determine the type of life you want to lead. What type of job do you want? Where do you want to live? How do you want to spend your evenings? How much money do you want to earn? Describe your social life. Take the time to thoroughly examine the future you’d like to experience.
Put the first things first. Money isn’t the only thing, but it’s an important thing. Money is great for solving many of life’s challenges. It’s also a necessary resource for doing many other things. If you’re having financial struggles, it would make sense to work on your finances first.
- Make a logical and attainable plan for each part of your life you’d like to change. If you need to lose 10kgs, going for a daily walk and eliminating high-calorie drinks would be a good start. After a month of walking, you could add in additional exercise and diet changes e.g.
- Focus on financial and health issues first. After you’ve gained some momentum, you can address the other parts of your life.
Be brave enough to choose. Why haven’t you made decisions about your life in the past? Is it possible that you were afraid to make a choice and possibly fail? Did you try once and stopped at the first obstacle? It’s true that you can’t fail if you never try, but you can’t ever experience success and happiness either.
Have enough discipline to choose. When you’re confused and uncertain, it feels easier to avoid making decisions. You don’t want to make the wrong decision after all. However, this type of thinking is a trap. It’s better to make a reasonable choice and give it your best effort than it is to not make a decision at all. And don’t worry, in time, your decision making muscle will be working on autopilot 🙂
Realize that luck isn’t on your side over the long-term. When you don’t put energy into something, it will tend to fall apart over time. Whether you’re talking about a fence, a sand castle, or your life, luck isn’t kind. The natural way of the universe is to move from ordered to disordered and remember “Rome was not built in a day!”
- The only cure is concentrated effort and energy. A wooden fence only survives if you repair it and paint it at regular intervals. Even then, it will still have to be replaced at some point. Your life is no different. Without energy and intention applied regularly, your life falls apart just like the fence.
Now is the time to take control of your life and make meaningful decisions. Choose a course for your life or allow apathy to slowly destroy it. Design an exciting life by taking control. It’s still only January!
It may all sound overwhelming but this is your life we are talking about and it is never too late to try to take control, plan ahead and live a life by design, not by accident.